At the core of every self-destructive behavior is a faulty core belief of “I’m not good enough” in some form.
I’ve spent the majority of my life in such a state and learned to recognize it only a few years ago. I’m currently practicing rewriting the botched tape.
Before it’s ever a conscious thought, my tape manifests itself in ways like: being critical of how I look in the mirror, comparing myself to and therefore competing with others, getting off task at work, yelling at my son, beating myself up over missing a workout or not doing the entire thing well enough, overeating, etc…
It’s easy to get caught up in trying to control the symptoms instead of addressing the core belief that’s behind them all. I am good at sticking to a plan and checking tasks off a list but that only tames the demon for so long.
If you’re in the same boat, try overwriting the old tape with me by saying to yourself: I’m good enough because I am. I am exactly where I am supposed to be at this moment, what is the next right thing to do?
What a wonderful new world we can make together!