Do you think you deserve to be fit and healthy? Seriously… Not just “it would be nice if I were fit and healthy” but do you honestly believe you deserve to be fit and healthy? Do you believe it’s possible for you?
If not, start there…
What do you fear?
What are you hiding from?
What’s hurt you in the past?
What’s hurting you right now?
What do you think you deserve?
Fat is a barrier between you and the rest of the world. Why do you think you need it there?
If these questions bubble up tears or a lot of self deprecating self talk, get some professional help and/or find some kind of support group for yourself. There’s no shame in identifying there’s something that needs to be addressed and then seeking out help to address it. If you are willing to be honest with yourself about what’s really going on inside, recovery is possible for you! It’s not easy, but it’s WORTH IT!
Recognize that food addiction is real. It doesn’t go away. However, YOU, my dear, are worth some of the precious energy you spend on other people EVERY DAY.
Are you taking time to nurture yourself in ways that do not include food? If not, start making a list of things that fill you up that have nothing to do with eating or drinking. Think about when you were a kid. What did you dream about? What did you love to do? My core favorite things have not changed for as long as I can remember… Connect with that inner child. Love her. Love him. Don’t judge. Don’t talk down to. Help that little boy or girl be healthy.
Carve out some times to do what you love. Doing so makes it possible for you to TRULY be there for others. It’s not selfish, it’s self-care.
Become more aware of your self talk. Turn every judgmental, critical, self deprecating thought around into something positive. Open your heart to receiving the answers that are available to you at any given moment. Sometimes they seem like they are slow in coming. Have faith that the answers you need will arrive when you need them if you are open to receiving them. They are! Really!
It becomes easier with practice. The first step is simply to become aware.
It takes determination and constant effort to change significantly. Keep in mind the weight didn’t come on overnight and it’s not going to go away overnight. Be kind, be patient, with yourself. Trust the process.
Seek out people who are living the lifestyle you want.
Learn about addiction and how people successfully overcome it. The original 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous are at the bottom of this post. They work. It’s not easy, but it’s WORTH IT!
Food is fuel. If you don’t eat enough for your body to function, it will take nutrients from your muscles and bones, slowing your metabolism. It does get easier to make healthy choices and the lifestyle change it takes to change your body does get easier to maintain the longer it’s practiced. Know that.
Before you set yourself up to fail (again), take some time to identify what’s gotten you here in the first place. Start thinking positively.
Change your thoughts and change your world!
From my heart to yours,
Thanks for reading
As a reference, these are the original Twelve Steps as published by Alcoholics Anonymous as taken from Wikipedia. :
- We admitted we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
- Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
- Continued to take personal inventory, and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.