Last night, while reconnecting with a friend from middle school, I was reminded of something I heard Dave Ramsey quote from Charlie Jones, “You’re the same today as you will be in 5 years except for two things: the people you meet and the books you read.”
Although very different in some ways, my childhood friend and I share commonality beyond words. Both of us have gone through significant transformation in the last 5 years that has landed us on a very similar path. There is something extremely special about conversing with someone who knows who you used to be and still cares about you now.
Most of our conversation revolved around identifying limiting beliefs and how to turn them around into empowering concepts. Here are some I’d like to share:
1) If you tell yourself “I can’t lose weight”, “I’ll never be thin”, “It’s too hard to change”, all of that will come true. If you resolve to change with an executable plan no matter what obstacles come your way, you will be successful.
2) When changing, there’s a lonely time period where more people are leaving your life than coming in. However, that will soon turn around as you open your heart to being loved and embrace your new stage of life.
3) Sometimes, when you are just sure something is going to suck but have nothing tangible to base that assumption on, stick around. Something wonderful is about to happen. Part of your ego is about to die and is putting up a fuss.
4) Perfection is an illusion. Nothing is all good or all bad. Everything is a little bit of both and nothing lasts forever.
5) Sometimes “more” is not worth its price.
These are things I need to remember but are easy to forget.
Sometimes limiting beliefs sneak in without me realizing them. I start to think that things can’t be any better than they are now. “You don’t know how good you have it”, is something I used to hear from my mother often. From her vantage point, I can see exactly what she meant but that doesn’t mean her past, or mine, should keep me from experiencing the very best of today.
Other times, I get a bit pompous about how “well” I’ve done or start to focus on how “necessary” I am in a certain role. Usually, that’s just before I go into another down turn. Do I have value? Yes. Will the world stop turning based on anything I do? No.
Everybody has baggage. It’s easier to see what someone else “should” do differently than identify what needs to changed within. But it’s only by changing within that anyone can truly help anyone else. By being authentic, overcoming obstacles, building resolve… we can change the world. One person at a time… starting with ourselves.
From my heart to yours,
Thanks for reading