Alone For The Holidays

I moved out from my ex-husband’s home December 4, 2004 (almost a decade ago!).  I had people at work that cared about me but, outside of that, didn’t really have any friends.  I didn’t have a supportive birth family and wasn’t close enough to anyone to be invited anywhere.

I got through that very painful transitional time with a few tools:

1) a life coach

2) a journal where I was free to express my feelings unedited

3) a “lie” box where I could put my negative, self deprecating, thoughts away (On a post-it note, I’d write the “lie” on one side and a reframed “truth” on the other side before placing it in the box.)

4) The books “Courage to Change” and “Co Dependant No More”

5) willingness to accept I am powerless in situations outside my control and openness to rely on a power greater than myself (even though I didn’t have that “power” fully defined)

6) a “personal massager” named King Tut

Looking back, I see that time period made my fulfilling relationships now possible.  When things are getting off track within me or within my current marriage, I recognize the warning signs sooner.

Every good relationship has ups and downs.  If there are no downs, somebody isn’t being honest and that’s eventually going to be an issue.  That’s not to say that you need to be down often.  Just, at some point, there are going to be disagreements and disappointments that can turn into resentments if partners do not address them.

Holidays are no more, or less, than what you make of them.  In the cosmos, they are just another day that comes and goes.  Whether you feel you have much to celebrate this year or not, please use those days to celebrate your LIMITLESS potential.

Cherish the joys, grow from the challenges and be grateful to be alive!

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

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