Time to Fly

I often told people my husband held my kite string so I could fly.  What I didn’t realize I was saying at the time is I felt I needed holding down.  I didn’t feel safe being all I could be, letting go, riding the winds.  I feared if I did that, I would lose control and everything in my life would potentially fall apart.

As I sit on my new bed in my new location, I no longer have that fear.  I am here, sitting with myself and quite content with that.  Everything I am not is crumbling away but I am here as centered and at peace as I have ever been.  I am learning to fly.

When I was around ten, I was taken on my first flight in a little two seater airplane.  I remember looking down in awe as ‘big’ buildings started looking like toys and people were nothing more than little specs.  We didn’t go that high because it was such a small craft but it was high enough to get a different perspective than I had ever had before.  I remember thinking perspective changes everything.  I have a better understanding now of how true that observation was than I did then.

My pilot explained the controls on the dashboard and how he watched the horizon to make sure he was straight.  I had no desire to learn to operate a plane but I thoroughly enjoyed the experience.  It was exhilarating to experience something so new!

I don’t know exactly when it happened but, at some point, new things became scary instead of exciting.  I tried to make things as much the same as possible.  I started being addicted to control.  I trained people in my life not to surprise me.  I built relationships with impressionable folks.  The older I got, the more power I sought.  Eventually, I realized I didn’t want to try and control others but I still tried to control what happened to me.  I still braced myself for any pitfall that may come my way.  That created tension in my body… a lot of it.

I am in the process of letting go of all of that now.  The personal work I need to do in order to coach is teaching me more about myself than I ever imagined.  My client’s lives mirror mine and the more work I do in my own life, the more present I can be for them.

Here is my understanding of life today… The secret to making progress without creating tension is to keep my eyes on the horizon and do the next right thing.  There isn’t much use in writing a script for how things are going to go.  My ‘law of attraction’ work has taught me the best way to create the life I want is to imagine it already here and let go of trying to figure out ‘how’ it will happen.  I tune into what I call ‘spirit’ and take action steps in the direction I want to go.  One small step at the time, enjoying the process along the way.

I have a good life.  Almost everything outside of myself I used to identify with has either changed or gone away.  I am grieving the loss of a marriage I thought would last forever but I haven’t lost the memories of wonderful times spent together.  Life is in the moments.  Forever is a series of ‘right nows’ strung together.

 

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

 

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Storms Pass

I have known for some time now that life continues in cycles. No matter how long I have practiced mindfulness or how many personal growth exercises I have completed, there is always another layer to explore. The more aware I become, the more I recognize patterns in my relationships. When I say “relationships” I am referring to all kinds (family, friends, romantic, professional).

In my last post, I spoke about my illusion of control. I say illusion because even if I do successfully influence someone else, it’s only because he or she allowed me to. If someone influences me, it’s only because I allowed it. I am responsible for my thoughts, feelings and actions. I always have choices. Any time I think I don’t, I have the option to stop believing that.

My coaching practice is showing me how certain concepts work universally. Whether it’s deciding on a job, romantic relationship, or raising teenagers, the strategy is similar…decide what makes investing my energy worth it and ask for what I want clearly. Own my power and speak truth with kindness, outlining consequences of options… If I put blinders on and go for a goal without being mindful of the current moment, I get off track. If I try to control anything outside myself, it doesn’t work well. If I give my power away to someone else by thinking too much of his or her opinion, losing touch with my inner knowing, I fall and wonder “how the heck did I get here?”…

When I fall, I get back up. I have rebuilt my life, almost from scratch, more than once. Every time, I intended to learn from my mistakes, owned my part of whatever went wrong and planned to make fewer mistakes going forward. Every time, some of the same problems appeared with completely different people in a completely different environment. Huh…

In the past, I blamed people and circumstances outside myself for my emotional condition. Sometimes it is necessary to leave a person or place but it’s never completely the other person’s issue. I know first hand circumstances repeat until I learn the lesson. Each time, I recognize and address it more quickly than before. Practicing gratitude and self-love help me navigate through the rough patches. Beating myself up about ‘failing again’ isn’t helpful at all. Eventually, I avoid the issue entirely (once I have fully learned the lesson).

In the past, I let emotion run my life… ‘Self control’ was modeled for me by people who shut their feelings off. I didn’t learn how to process my feelings in a healthy way or use emotion as a barometer growing up. I am practicing both now.

Emotions are like weather patterns, constantly moving with varied intensity. There isn’t good weather and bad weather… People only say that because sometimes the weather makes it uncomfortable to do what they want to do.

I am learning it’s important to check my internal ‘weather’ every day. When I am on the right track, I have peace. When there is something I need to learn, I have a storm. Neither lasts forever. No matter what the weather, the sun rises and sets. There is a certain level of stability and peace available no matter what storms may come.

Any time I notice myself forgetting that, my mind racing and/or my heart hurting, I can focus my attention on my breath. I can remind myself all is well and I am safe in this moment. I can tune into spirit for guidance and strength, do the next right thing and embrace the process. I can and I do!

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

 

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Embrace the Unknown

It’s been said “life is a journey, not a destination”.  I am living that reality these days.  I am recognizing how focusing on the destination (end result), without appreciating the process, leads to heartache.  When I live in the moment with a spirit of gratitude, I experience peace amongst chaos.

I have been thinking about this blog post for several days and debated about how much to share.  I have a few special followers who sometimes believe I am talking about them even when I’m not.  Understanding the ripple effect of my words and actions, I have been taking care to be particularly mindful of what I write.  I would like my readers to take what they  like and leave the rest.  If it hurts or offends, I promise that was not my intention.

I write to grow myself and, in so doing, believe I give others permission to show up, be vulnerable, take chances and grow too!  If my words inspire anything other than growth, please let them be.  At the same time, for what it’s worth, I have learned the most from the things that were the most uncomfortable.

Talk about discomfort!  I process and integrate personal growth work quickly but I have been on some kind of uber-superhighway growth cycle the past couple of months.  It’s been quick and intense, even for me!  I have experienced both the highest elation of my life and the greatest heartache, sometimes within 24 hours!

It has come to my attention I have spent most of my life to this point either working to recreate good feelings or running away from uncomfortable ones (mostly running away).  Early on in my yoga practice, I recognized how much I avoid discomfort and have been practicing sitting with myself wherever that may be.  My practice has taught me all discomfort is temporary and sometimes the best thing to do is lean into it.  If I just keep showing up and practicing, focusing my energy on each breath and my physical center, everything else falls into place.

I remember when I couldn’t reach my hands straight above my head or touch my toes.  I can now put my chest on my knees at the end of my routine.  I didn’t get there by focusing on being able to put my chest on my knees (In fact, I didn’t think my body would ever do that!)… I got there by showing up, doing my best and letting go a little bit more every time.  I have learned that if I always avoid what’s uncomfortable, I plateau.  If go just a little past what I am used to, I improve a little bit at a time.  Almost every new pose has scared me and my first step is believing the pose is possible for me.

My yoga teacher says that ‘how you do one thing is how you do everything’.  I believe he’s right.  I have certainly seen the correlation between my practice and my life.  Most recently, it’s given me insight into the difference between integrity and control.

Integrity is a tenant of Adamantine, control is not.  Integrity brings stability.  Control brings tension.  I have confused the two in the past… Abounding in my illusion of ‘control’ but lacking integrity (oops).

Recently, I have taken a good, hard look at what I did to get my marriage to the place it’s in today.  I played a role… Lacking integrity, I lost touch with who I am and got caught up in the status of having a “good marriage”.  There were flags that all was not what I wanted it to be but I ignored them.  I held back my opinion on some little things when I could have just mentioned my preference in the beginning.  My husband did the same and here we are…

I consider myself a very loving person and I am for the most part.  However, I also have a shadow side when someone is ‘in the way’ of what I want.  By not getting what I want, I am learning how to be more compassionate and love unconditionally.  It’s not a challenge to love people who are how I like them… it is challenging to love fully when things aren’t going my way.  It’s uncomfortable… But I am learning how.

I have learned I can either be angry and hurt that good times had to end or I can rejoice and be grateful they happened.  The latter is much more joyful.  Gratitude always takes the edge off my suffering and puts my attitude in a better place.  I believe occasional pain is a mandatory part of human living but suffering is truly optional.  I choose my thoughts and my thoughts create my reality.

I am learning just because something feels good and I CAN do it, doesn’t mean it’s good for me.  That’s a BIG ONE!  Every since my father preached having “a quiet and mild spirit” is a virtue and pleaded with me to ‘get control of my emotions’, I have rebelled against anyone or anything I perceived as trying to control me.  By doing so, I made a lot of choices that were not in my best interest.  I lived life as if there were only two modes, being in control or being controlled.

I now see there is an ideal space in between I call ‘allowing with intention’.  It’s a place where I get clear on what I want and believe I deserve it.  If I can imagine it, I believe the universe can provide it and lots of things better!  It’s a place where I live in accordance with my highest truth (integrity) without trying to control anything outside of myself.  It’s a place where I decide what is important to me and don’t settle for anything less.  It’s a place where I embrace the unknown for the adventure of living!

 

From my heart to yours,

 

Thanks for reading

Just because you can breathe doesn’t mean you can’t drown…

I gained remarkable insight this afternoon while sitting across from a wise, dear friend.  As I shared what was going on in my life and the full spectrum of emotions I experienced, she helped me connect the dots on what others have tried to tell me.  She helped me see how single focused (and selfish) I was looking at the world through only my lens.

I have had more than one person tell me ‘you are stronger than the average person’ and ‘you can’t expect everyone else to handle things the way you do’.  I use phrases like “claim your power” and “you are not responsible for other people’s feelings” often.  I insist that everyone has the ability to get out of any situation with enough willingness to change.  Some people find this inspiring; others insist not everyone is willing or able to change.  I previously thought if someone wasn’t willing to change, that’s their problem and washed my hands of it (much to the dismay of people more compassionate than me).

As my friend talked about the ripple effect people’s choices have on others, I began to think about water.  I thought about my fear of drowning and how uncomfortable I am with my face wet.  I panic quickly if my face is under water for long so I swim with my face up.  Similarly, I am uncomfortable with negative emotions for long so I flip everything to the positive as quickly as possible.

Then it hit me…

Everyone can breathe but that doesn’t matter much if someone is under water drowning.  Sometimes it takes a trained lifeguard with a floatation device to get the drowning person above water. Not everyone can be saved but that doesn’t mean drowning individuals deserve to be ignored or criticized for their choices.  Lifeguards determine the safest way to intervene and do everything possible to save, even when it’s not comfortable.  I can learn from lifeguards.

Depression is like drowning… No one chooses it.

When I was drowning in a sea of negativity, I had someone with a life preserver pay for me to go to therapy.  I had people show up with love and support when I needed it most.  I was willing to accept the help but I had help.  I didn’t recover alone.  I still have people who show up exactly when I need them and appreciate their patience with me while I discover things in my own time.

I am mindful of the fact people have differing abilities handling change and stress the same way people have differing abilities in water.  I may be a speed demon when it comes to life changes but that doesn’t mean everyone else fits my timeline; the same way an Olympic swimmer is much faster than me in water. Even Olympic swimmers can cramp and drown.  If I were to do a cannonball in the middle of a pool, I wouldn’t be appalled the people on the sidelines got wet.

There is a space between thinking only of one’s self and only of others.  There is a space between being oblivious to the impact my actions have on others and being paralyzed by the possible implications.  There is a space between being irresponsible and responsible for things that aren’t mine.  That’s the space where I intend to float.

 

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

What I Know About Love

True love is infinite.  It can not be measured, compartmentalized or contained.  It is.  That is all.

My 9 year anniversary of marriage was last Saturday (March 19).  I didn’t post on that day because my husband and I have decided to separate.  Those who know us both are surprised and somewhat confused.  Truthfully, we are a bit surprised as well but it is a welcome change.

Break ups are opportunities for a life review.  They open the door to a deeper understanding of life, the universe and everything.  This one is perhaps one of my greatest gifts.

I love my husband and he loves me.  We respect each other.  We can talk about anything…even splitting up…with open hearts.  We want what is best for the other. We want each other to be happy.  We have both stated we needed each other to grow as much individually as we have the past decade. I am grateful for him and he is grateful for me.

He has a way with metaphors and described our split like a shuttle launch.  Shuttles need boosters to take off and get up to speed but, after a certain point, the boosters have to break off so the shuttle can soar into outer-space.   We want each other to soar.  We’re soaring in different directions and staying together would mean limiting each other’s potential.  Neither of us wish for that.

I affirm often “I embrace changes that serve my highest good”.  Every time I repeat those words, I mean them.  Even though I wasn’t expecting this change, I see it as one to embrace.  Even when change is painful, it doesn’t cause suffering unless I resist it.

Our time as a married couple has come to an end.  We know that we could deny this fact and live mediocre lives together for many years to come but we want GREAT lives.  Passionate, wholehearted, amazing lives.

I have been through divorce before as a different person with someone quite different.  I thought I would live the rest of my life with the man I married March 19, 2007.  I justified my first divorce with the success of my second marriage, telling myself the relationship issues weren’t mine.  This transition is making me question everything I have ever believed about love.  It’s making me see how I have clutched on to others to try and fill a void within myself.  It’s giving me opportunities to practice the self-love and self-care I teach while opening my eyes to yet another way of being.

In the past year, two significant female friendships have ended as well.  One of them specifically told me I was trying to use her for connection I should experience with my husband.  Her words angered me immensely at the time but now I see she was right.  Another held my hand while I crossed the bridge to a more spiritual life and then withdrew because it’s what she needed to do.  I took that withdrawal as abandonment but, in reality, we needed to part for our own good.  We are all better apart than we would be together now.  Both of those friendships helped teach me what love is and what it is not.  Both of those friendships prepared me for this time in my life.

There are pieces of my heart that belong to every person I have every loved, romantically or otherwise.  Whether we remain lovers/friends or not, that love remains.  That piece of my heart is theirs and I cherish it.  The words that triggered the most emotion (especially hurt, anger and fear) held the deepest truth and taught me the greatest lessons.  Resistance to the shadow parts of myself causes destruction, embracing them heals.

As one door closes, another opens.  I am experiencing connection at a level I have never experienced before.  I now understand there is no competition in love.  My love has no end.  The love I experience with one does not take away from the love I experience with another.  Finite things can be owned, bartered, divided and taken away…not infinite love.

Resistance to loving myself unconditionally blocks love from coming in or going out.  Every fear I have had about how someone is going to treat me, stems from the way I treat myself.  I have accused others of abandoning me, disrespecting me, not listening to me, manipulating me, taking advantage of me…And guess what?! Those are things I have done to myself!

Identifying what I was afraid of in regards to relationships inspired the set of affirmations below.  Reading them aloud daily has been life changing!  May they be as helpful to you as they have been to me.

Trust Affirmations:
Everything is working out perfectly.
I am grateful we found each other and are brave enough to do what we need to do for our highest good.
I trust you.
I trust myself.
I trust your connection with spirit.
I trust my connection with spirit.
I trust your timing.
I trust my timing.
I trust your instincts.
I trust my instincts.
I release my need to control, trying to make myself feel safe.
I am safe.
All is well.
I am open to receiving the best I can imagine and anything better.

And so it is (x3)…

 

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

 

 

It’s Not About ‘Having it all together’

I have been thinking a lot lately about the statement, “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”.  That statement tells me a student’s progress isn’t just about how good the teacher is. It’s not solely about the potential of the student either.

The alignment between the two determines progress.  Both must be in complimentary places.  Teachers come in all shapes and forms.  Some of my best teachers have been the worst examples.

Within a month’s time, I have experienced elation at being exactly on the right path doing the right things with the right people.  I have also experienced feelings of failure and unworthiness that made me question my abilities.  That dichotomy has been a historical pattern for me thus far.

I’ve had enough intimate conversations and read enough to know I am not alone in this.  However, I don’t always understand how to embrace it.  I have been told one needs to embrace the shadow (negative/dark) part of one’s self in order to be healthy.  I know that the more I try to suppress it, the stronger it seems to get but that doesn’t keep me from sometimes wanting it to just go away.  My mode of operation, if I’m not paying attention, is to put my head down, muscle through and tell myself “I just have to get through this…”.  I forget I have choices…

A wise friend and mentor reminded me yesterday that I choose my actions and I choose my thoughts about my actions.  I knew that but I forgot.  Yes, there are times when doing something unpleasant is necessary to reach a goal but if I lose sight of my intentions because I am only telling myself “I have to get through this…”, I bring much unnecessary unpleasantness upon myself.  I lose sight of my purpose and I start to cry unhappy tears.

It is imperative for me to stay tuned in to spirit.  This means I need quiet time to myself, in a big enough chunk, my mind can settle from the endless task list that sometimes rattles around my brain.  This means I choose to stay tuned.  I always have a choice.

It’s maddening to try to understand why things happen when knowing (if I could know) doesn’t make a bit of difference.  People have feelings.  Relationships ebb and flow.  It doesn’t mean anyone is ‘wrong’.  When I am tuned into sprit, I feel love and appreciation.  I remember to love myself even in the dark times.

I am both a teacher and a student.

 

From my heart to yours,

 

Thanks for reading

 

More than a Coat

I have struggled with overspending for as long as I can remember.  I am now committed to planning a budget and sticking to it because it’s necessary to live the life I want to live.  I am learning to enjoy my life outside of things.  In the past, I have used money in exchange for love and that isn’t a fair trade.  I believe life supports me; all I have to do is show up, be present and do the next right thing.  Yesterday was a powerful reinforcement of those beliefs.

I had a coupon from Younkers for $60 off an outwear item that costs $100 or more and I needed a coat.  I had up to $55 budgeted for it.  My partner found me the PERFECT one but when it came time to check out, it rang up at $79.99 (40% off). The clerk couldn’t change the original price back to $110 so I could get a better deal with my coupon.

I froze.  Feeling a bit overwhelmed, I asked the clerk to ring up everything except the coat.  I had money for a $55 coat.  I did not have money for an $80 coat.

As I walked through the store to see if someone else could get the coat price down to one I could afford that day, more and more things were jumping out at me and my mind raced with dialog.

“Oh, what a cute tumbler, I could use it!”

“You already have all the tumblers you need, another one would take up room in the cupboard and not bring you any more joy”

“Oh yes, that’s right”

“Slippers!!!  I can use slippers!”

“You have slippers that fit and buying more will not bring you more joy.”

“Right”

“Oh, pants!!!! My son could use more work pants.  Good mothers buy their sons plenty of pants.”

“Dear one, your son is loved and cared for.  He has pants to wear to work.  They wash, they fit, and if something happened, there are 24 hour stores that sell them.  He will not go without pants.”

“My goodness, I need to get out of this place”

I refused to let myself go down the path of bargaining with myself for an extra $25.  I attempted that game many times before and always came up short.  As I shared my angst with my partner, he likened the experience to an alcoholic visiting her favorite bar.  In a former life, I would easily spend $400-$500 in a single visit buying all the items I didn’t buy this trip.  The result was a house overflowing with stuff, an empty bank account and unending stress.  I reminded myself I am changing and it’s safe to change…

We eventually arrived at another counter with an experienced looking woman who I hoped could help me.  I approached without expectation that I would get the coat or not get the coat but I REALLY WANTED the coat.  When I explained the situation, she regretfully informed me that she couldn’t adjust the original price either.  My heart sank.  It was perhaps the most perfect coat I have ever found but I was $25 short.  In my disappointed state, I asked the woman behind me if she wanted to go while I thought about my situation.

Although she could barely speak English, the woman next in line handed me a printed out coupon stamped with yesterday’s date.  It was for $25 off any item $50 or more.  I read the offer as words but the meaning didn’t sink in.  I looked up at the woman who handed it to me as if to ask “what is this for?”.  Her eyes said it was for me.  I looked back down and suddenly realized this coupon would make the coat affordable!  I looked back up on the edge of tears and said “Is this for me?” accompanied with a gesture.  She nodded.  The waterworks came as I said “thank you so much” over and over again.

Tears are flowing as I write this now… I am grateful for the kind hearted woman who was born speaking another language but connected with me anyway.  She was a quiet person; I can be loud.  Her face didn’t express her emotions outwardly like mine does but she had wise, knowing eyes.  When I made eye contact, I saw a hard working woman who knows the pain of heartbreak and has made many sacrifices in her life.  I felt like she understood me completely in that moment despite our differences.  After I paid, I turned around again and asked if I could give her a hug.  She agreed and even more tears fell down my face.

I was overwhelmed with feelings of gratitude and grief for all the times I felt misunderstood and unloved.  On top of the gratitude for the coat, I was grateful for the experience and the sensations of my feelings I was experiencing in real time.  She reinforced my faith that everything works out perfectly!

Thank you, dear, sweet woman who made it possible to buy my coat.  I will think of you whenever I wear it.  Remembering your kind act helps me be aware of opportunities to give what I have at the right time for someone else.

 

From my heart to yours,

 

Thanks for reading

Open to Receiving

I am open to receiving love, happiness, health and prosperity, knowing I deserve them all.

In response to the left side of my body crying out for attention, I have been working on my ability to receive for the last few months.  I am amazed to learn over and over again that I already have all I want.  Simply by changing my attention to what is here, now, that I appreciate, I have found everything I was looking for somewhere else.  As plans change and things go differently than expected, they keep turning out better than I imagined.

Yesterday was Thanksgiving Day in America.  My husband volunteered to host our family.  He was nervous about how his turkey was going to turn out since it was the first year he took care of it from start to finish.  I had been trying to find the motivation to clean our house for a week and it hadn’t shown up.

Because of the threat of an ice storm, most of the extended family ended up staying home. We had the turkey, potatoes, gravy, cranberry sauce and green been casserole in town but the family that didn’t come had all the desserts. To make our meal complete, my husband picked up a pumpkin pie from the grocery store that morning and I whipped the cream.  When the turkey got done early, my son and husband pitched in to a 45 minute speed cleaning session.  The floors were freshly dried when our visitors showed up.

We ended up having what I felt was one of the best Thanksgiving dinners ever!  Conversation was effortless and I got some great tips from my sister in law on how to make my own environmentally friendly, non toxic, inexpensive cleaning products.  I believe everyone had a wonderful time.  I’m pretty sure my nephew ate around 2lbs of turkey breast himself so the meat was a hit!

I approached the day open to receiving love, peace and joy.  I had a couple of tense moments directing the men in house on what/how to clean but they did a great job.  Everything worked out perfectly in the end.

The above affirmation was on a solar plexus meditation handout from the Shekinah Life Purpose Center.  I came across it this morning when pondering what I wanted to write about today.  In the past, I have tried to put myself in a position to give but because of my resistance to receiving, I blocked many great opportunities to exchange love.  From a place of self criticism, I judged others unfairly as I judged myself unfairly.

This year will be the least expensive but most fulfilling holiday season yet for our family.  There is no greater gift than being fully present in the moment with another person.  I see that now.

Wishing you and yours health, peace and love this Winter season.

 

From my heart to yours,

 

Thanks for reading

 

Learn more about the Shekinah Life Purpose Center here:

http://www.shekinahlifepurposecenter.com/about-anita.html

Embrace the Journey

I demonstrate my power in ways that empower others.  I release any guilt for being successful and my desires manifest in ways that are the best for all.

Part of becoming a licensed Heal Your Life Workshop Leader was participating in the 2 day intensive workshop.  My intention going into the training was to remove any blocks standing in my way of success and to open myself to receiving love. I got even more than I bargained for.

The opening affirmation came to me on the flight home while I was reading “Creative Visualization” by Shakti Gawain.  In the training, I was surrounded by people who celebrated my natural abilities and demeanor.  I was open, free and strong.  Many fellow classmates told me that I exuded love.

I realized that somewhere inside, I felt that I couldn’t be completely happy unless everyone around me was happy.  I learned there is plenty for everyone.  My being all I can be to the best of my ability doesn’t take away from what is available to anyone else.  We all have access to abundance in all things!

As fellow classmates were commenting on my confidence, I felt a little self conscious.  I worried that I was being too much, too free, too emotional, too dramatic.  As the week progressed, I was able to let love in.  I was able to be vulnerable and less afraid.  I now affirm I am loved and accepted exactly as I am.

Near the end of the training, we visited the home of Patricia Crane and Rick Nichols.  They have a beautiful labyrinth in their back yard.  I had never walked one before.  When I approached, I initially thought “that’s it?! you can just skip over the lines and go straight to the center, that’s not big” and I realized that has been my approach to life at times (skip the journey and go right to the destination).

As I began my walk, I looked down a lot and adjusted several rocks.  As time passed, I looked down less.  My arms started a kind of energetic dance.  My movements FLOWED with the music playing in the distance.  I started sensing where the path was, instead of looking, and I realized I have the same ability in everyday life.  Embrace the journey, go with the flow and sense the path.

There were several of us walking the labyrinth at the same time.  I brushed shoulders with the same people several times but after we passed each other, we went different directions.  We met for a moment of time and then separated.  We were on the same, yet different, journey.  I was reminded of my attachments to people and how the best way to love someone is to truly set him/her free.  If I were to grab on to someone walking the labyrinth, one of us would have to go backwards or halt progress.  The same is true in life.

In the center, there were stones with words on them.  I quickly grabbed the one that first caught my attention.  It said “blessings”.  I took a moment to express gratitude in my heart and headed back.  At one point, I thought “Is this ever going to end? How long does this take? I thought I would be done by now.”  I realized I feel that way in life sometimes.  The end of the journey was like the beginning but I was not the same.  I had a different energy and different perspective when I went over the same sections a second time.  The people who brushed shoulders with me in the beginning were not with me at the end.

At times, I felt like I was going to fall but I didn’t.  I regained my balance and slowed down.  That’s exactly what I need to do in life as well! I realized that if I focus only on the destination, I miss out on the fun of the journey.  Sometimes, it’s good, even necessary, to take the LONG way around.  Some of the most enjoyable part of the experience was when I was the only one on a section.  There’s no need to fear being abandoned/alone.  I am never truly alone because I always have the source of life within me.

In my heart, I do wish everyone to feel the freedom I feel inside now but everyone has to do their own work.  I am excited and honored to have the ability to accompany others on their journeys!  There is always more to learn, somewhere deeper to go, something to release.

Cheers to the journey!

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

Resources/Recommend Reading:

“You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000SEHQ96/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

“Creative Visualization” by Shakti Gawain

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B001LORH1O/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?ie=UTF8&btkr=1

More with Less

This quote succinctly described the recent awakening I experienced (it graced my Facebook feed today courtesy of the “Conscious Consumerism” page).  I have spent over two decades buying into the concept that security is found in getting a ‘stable job’ with ‘dependable income’ to be able to afford stuff.  I am embarrassed to say how much money I have wasted on things that don’t really matter while hurting my health, experiencing distress, and being unavailable for my family.

I believe the universe has enough for all of us to experience abundance and I deserve it.  However, my definition of abundance now goes far beyond a paycheck.  I value my life… My physical, spiritual and emotional wellbeing are PRICELESS.  I appreciate the home in which I live and the people whom I share it with.  With a new attitude, I see I already have all that I need and the ability to create the life I want to live.

Two of my dearest, long time friends have been in this place for a long time.  One grew up in poverty and I have always admired her ability to support herself on very little income.  She has always had a beautiful, clean home and wonderfully eclectic wardrobe.  Another has lived by his own rules for over 50 years and earned enough money to support many trips around the world.  He tried to teach me years ago that ‘normal’ concepts of security are an illusion propagated by capitalism but I wasn’t ready to learn.

Growing up, I was surrounded by people who worked at jobs they hated so that they could knock on people’s doors preaching someone else’s ‘truth’ for 90 hours a month.  They drove Chevy Citations, ate donuts and had potlucks for fun.  Most of them were very unhappy and unfulfilled.  They put on fake smiles and talked about a ‘future Paradise’ to console themselves.  Looking around as a child, I promised myself that I was ‘never going to be like them’.  I spent a long time resenting the way I was raised.  Now, I see it as more of a blessing than a curse.

I know first hand that we choose our beliefs and our beliefs shape our world.  Each of us can choose to be as ‘crazy’ as we like and it doesn’t matter what other people think.  Today, I am grateful for my past.  I am grateful for the people who use my services.  I am grateful to have the skills to provide them.  I am grateful for this new world view.

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading