Conversations over the past few days have gotten me thinking about the differences between people who have connection and those who long for connection. Thinking about my own life and the lives of people I’ve come in contact with, I’ve observed 3 common steps in the process:
1. Set Intention. Whether it be “I want a life partner”, “I want friends”, “I want healthy people in my life”… Whatever it is, set the intention and define what connection you are looking for.
2. Take Action. Take a step in the direction of your intention. Don’t worry about it being the right step; just take a step. Put yourself out there and give yourself permission to change course at any time if what you are doing is no longer serving your purpose.
3. Let Go. Once you are taking action, embrace the process. Spend your energy on imagining how you want to feel and taking continual steps in the direction of that feeling. If you find yourself thinking that it’s not working, change course. If you find yourself thinking it will never work, change your self talk. Have faith that life will work out in it’s own time. Prepare your heart to being open to receiving it when it does.
Although these steps are simple, I understand they aren’t necessarily easy. In my journey, a lot of junk bubbles to the surface I have to deal with before I can take any more steps in the direction I want to go. Instead of resisting what is and trying to force it into being something different, it works a lot better for me to spend my energy just being aware and looking for opportunities to make it better. Life gets a whole lot easier when I ride the waves of emotion that come up, knowing nothing lasts forever.
From my heart to yours
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