Storms Pass

I have known for some time now that life continues in cycles. No matter how long I have practiced mindfulness or how many personal growth exercises I have completed, there is always another layer to explore. The more aware I become, the more I recognize patterns in my relationships. When I say “relationships” I am referring to all kinds (family, friends, romantic, professional).

In my last post, I spoke about my illusion of control. I say illusion because even if I do successfully influence someone else, it’s only because he or she allowed me to. If someone influences me, it’s only because I allowed it. I am responsible for my thoughts, feelings and actions. I always have choices. Any time I think I don’t, I have the option to stop believing that.

My coaching practice is showing me how certain concepts work universally. Whether it’s deciding on a job, romantic relationship, or raising teenagers, the strategy is similar…decide what makes investing my energy worth it and ask for what I want clearly. Own my power and speak truth with kindness, outlining consequences of options… If I put blinders on and go for a goal without being mindful of the current moment, I get off track. If I try to control anything outside myself, it doesn’t work well. If I give my power away to someone else by thinking too much of his or her opinion, losing touch with my inner knowing, I fall and wonder “how the heck did I get here?”…

When I fall, I get back up. I have rebuilt my life, almost from scratch, more than once. Every time, I intended to learn from my mistakes, owned my part of whatever went wrong and planned to make fewer mistakes going forward. Every time, some of the same problems appeared with completely different people in a completely different environment. Huh…

In the past, I blamed people and circumstances outside myself for my emotional condition. Sometimes it is necessary to leave a person or place but it’s never completely the other person’s issue. I know first hand circumstances repeat until I learn the lesson. Each time, I recognize and address it more quickly than before. Practicing gratitude and self-love help me navigate through the rough patches. Beating myself up about ‘failing again’ isn’t helpful at all. Eventually, I avoid the issue entirely (once I have fully learned the lesson).

In the past, I let emotion run my life… ‘Self control’ was modeled for me by people who shut their feelings off. I didn’t learn how to process my feelings in a healthy way or use emotion as a barometer growing up. I am practicing both now.

Emotions are like weather patterns, constantly moving with varied intensity. There isn’t good weather and bad weather… People only say that because sometimes the weather makes it uncomfortable to do what they want to do.

I am learning it’s important to check my internal ‘weather’ every day. When I am on the right track, I have peace. When there is something I need to learn, I have a storm. Neither lasts forever. No matter what the weather, the sun rises and sets. There is a certain level of stability and peace available no matter what storms may come.

Any time I notice myself forgetting that, my mind racing and/or my heart hurting, I can focus my attention on my breath. I can remind myself all is well and I am safe in this moment. I can tune into spirit for guidance and strength, do the next right thing and embrace the process. I can and I do!

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

 

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Open to Receiving

I am open to receiving love, happiness, health and prosperity, knowing I deserve them all.

In response to the left side of my body crying out for attention, I have been working on my ability to receive for the last few months.  I am amazed to learn over and over again that I already have all I want.  Simply by changing my attention to what is here, now, that I appreciate, I have found everything I was looking for somewhere else.  As plans change and things go differently than expected, they keep turning out better than I imagined.

Yesterday was Thanksgiving Day in America.  My husband volunteered to host our family.  He was nervous about how his turkey was going to turn out since it was the first year he took care of it from start to finish.  I had been trying to find the motivation to clean our house for a week and it hadn’t shown up.

Because of the threat of an ice storm, most of the extended family ended up staying home. We had the turkey, potatoes, gravy, cranberry sauce and green been casserole in town but the family that didn’t come had all the desserts. To make our meal complete, my husband picked up a pumpkin pie from the grocery store that morning and I whipped the cream.  When the turkey got done early, my son and husband pitched in to a 45 minute speed cleaning session.  The floors were freshly dried when our visitors showed up.

We ended up having what I felt was one of the best Thanksgiving dinners ever!  Conversation was effortless and I got some great tips from my sister in law on how to make my own environmentally friendly, non toxic, inexpensive cleaning products.  I believe everyone had a wonderful time.  I’m pretty sure my nephew ate around 2lbs of turkey breast himself so the meat was a hit!

I approached the day open to receiving love, peace and joy.  I had a couple of tense moments directing the men in house on what/how to clean but they did a great job.  Everything worked out perfectly in the end.

The above affirmation was on a solar plexus meditation handout from the Shekinah Life Purpose Center.  I came across it this morning when pondering what I wanted to write about today.  In the past, I have tried to put myself in a position to give but because of my resistance to receiving, I blocked many great opportunities to exchange love.  From a place of self criticism, I judged others unfairly as I judged myself unfairly.

This year will be the least expensive but most fulfilling holiday season yet for our family.  There is no greater gift than being fully present in the moment with another person.  I see that now.

Wishing you and yours health, peace and love this Winter season.

 

From my heart to yours,

 

Thanks for reading

 

Learn more about the Shekinah Life Purpose Center here:

http://www.shekinahlifepurposecenter.com/about-anita.html