All I Need to Know I Learned from “Sorry”…

This Christmas Day was the first my son and I have ever celebrated with just the two of us. After breakfast and gifts, we started playing board games.  One of our favorites is Sorry.  I loved it as a kid and it’s one of the few I can enjoy as an adult.  We had a couple of riveting rounds of close calls and several times one of us came up from behind to win it all. It was exciting enough I realized how much I learned about life from playing the game as a kid.

There is no single card in Sorry that is always good or bad.  It all depends on where you are positioned at any given moment and where the other pieces are on the board in relation to you.  ‘Backwards 4’ can be a terrible thing if it takes you out of the ‘safe zone’ right before the other person gets a SORRY card they can use.  But it can also be a golden ticket if you have a piece in start and pull a ‘2 draw again’ card right before it.  The exact same card can mean being taken out next turn or closer to ‘home’ than you’ve ever been.  It’s not the card itself that makes the difference.  Such is life.

There is an itty bitty bit of strategy to the game but most of it isn’t controllable.  How much the cards got shuffled between rounds, who went first, what colors were chosen to play, etc. all add their own element of chance.  Every little detail impacts the end result but none of the details really matter that much.  Everyone playing with enough knowledge to understand the rules has the same chance of winning.  Such is life.

The high numbers of 10, 11 and 12 are WONDERFUL if you are trying to get around the board but they are worthless if you are almost ‘home’.  The ‘Sorry’ card is WONDERFUL if you have a piece at the start and the other person has a piece close to your safety zone but it can mean losing the game if you have all your pieces in play and the next card is exactly what the other person needed to win.  Only a few decisions are clearly ‘right’; everything else is just your best guess with the knowledge and understanding you have at the time.  Sometimes it works out in your favor; sometimes it doesn’t.  Such is life.

Today, my son and I had a game where I went through almost an entire deck without getting out of ‘start’.  I couldn’t use card after card after card.  I remembered how panicked I would get when that happened to me as a kid.  I hated losing.  I hated being stuck.  The thought of it was emotionally traumatic (can’t say I have completely overcome that (Ha!) but I’m much better at coping than I was as a child).  In the end, after some cards ended up in my favor and some cards held my son back, I won that game with a significant margin.  There was no way to tell at the start of the game how it would end up.  Such is life.

The last round we played inspired this post because I realized every moment we draw a figurative card.  None of those cards are inherently good or bad.  We all just make the best decisions we can with what we see at the time.  Sometimes what seems like a setback is actually setting us up for a win and sometimes what seems like a sure thing won’t be.  The best chance we have at living the lives we want is to let go of what we can’t control and do our best to position our energy in the direction we want to go.  Whatever this moment brings, another moment is on it’s way immediately following.  If life doesn’t seem to be going our way, let’s not stress. Let’s just breathe through it and pull the next card, it might be exactly what we are looking for.

Please affirm with me: I am open to receiving the best I can imagine and anything better.

Wishing you all a peaceful and joyous Winter!

 

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

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I Am Already Enough

During a yoga studio social hour last night, I had a conversation with an amazing young woman who’s leaving for seminary to Berklee, CA in a couple weeks.  I thanked her for the time she came up to me when I was having a mat meltdown, touched my shoulder and said it had happened to her too.  I experienced a moment where I felt safe and completely understood by someone I’d only interacted with for a few moments of life.  I am grateful women like her exist.

We exchanged background stories and agreed that challenging life circumstances have positioned us to be helpers.  I’m becoming more grateful for the opportunities to grow from them more and more all the time.  However, I’ve also caught myself creating challenges when none are necessary or believing something is going to be difficult when I haven’t even tried it.

Adamanine® Yoga teaches the concept of “effortless effort” which has challenged my core belief that if it doesn’t hurt, it doesn’t count.  I’m working on releasing my need to suffer.  I’m releasing tension from years of holding in, holding on, and pushing through.  Some if it isn’t even mine, it’s my parent’s tension passed on to me.  I don’t need to hold on to it any more.

Nothing lasts forever.  The sun rises and the sun sets everyday.  There is consistency to life but nothing is forever.  I’m giving myself permission to try things I’ve never tried before.  In fact, if I’m looking for results I’ve never had before, it’s likely to come from a source I’ve never tried before.

I’ve seen in myself and others that if you simply give yourself permission to stop believing you are stuck this way, allow yourself to change your mind, ask the universe questions and open your heart to answers, A-MA-ZING things happen.  However, my amazing is not the same as your amazing.  Each individual has their own path, their own journey, their own gifts.  From what I gather, the right path for each individual is “effortless effort” as much as my ideal yoga practice.

For every thing that doesn’t work out, I’ve narrowed down possibilities of what will.  I try things… no longer settling for mediocre.  I’m already enough, there’s no need to try to prove it.

Wow, what a relief!

 

From my heart to yours,

Thanks for reading

More about Adamantine Yoga can be found here: 

https://adamantineyoga.com/

Much more on changing thinking patterns can be found in this book: 

“You Can Heal Your Life” by Louise Hay